Determined: A Memoir of Love, Alcoholism, and Healing

In this vulnerable book on grief and healing, Jennifer Stamp invites readers inside her life as the spouse of an alcoholic. From their first date to final goodbye, she explores alcohol’s destructive place in her family and the healing journey that waits on the other side. “Perhaps I’ll write a book some day . . .”These prescient words begin a blog entry on Jennifer Stamp’s 2021 webpage. Created to keep friends and family up-to-date on her husband’s hospital stay, the CaringBridge profile quickly became a place where Jennifer could share the burden she’d held for years: Her husband was an alcoholic, and it was killing him. Living with an alcoholic forces you to take up residence under someone else’s storm cloud. Jennifer’s umbrella was occupied as she tried to create a normal life for her children. Her dreams and ambitions got pushed to the side, and she found herself falling into codependency. When her husband’s health failed, the sky may have cleared . . . but her path forward was muddled. Determined explores a side of alcoholism recovery that often goes ignored—the healing needed for the family, friends, and loved ones left behind. Every day, she battled heartbreaking questions. Why wasn’t I enough for him to give up alcohol? Why weren’t our children?Built from her CaringBridge updates and years of reflection, Jennifer’s book about alcohol addiction compassionately explores . . . The heartbreaking union of alcoholism and marriage, How to prioritize your own healing and growth amid grief, and Showing up for and loving your people . . . without losing yourself. With unflinching honesty and heart, Jennifer proves it’s never too late to find your own light. Whether you love an alcoholic or are struggling yourself, her brave voice—paired with years of healthcare experience and knowledge—offers comfort and points readers toward a new path forward. Read more